Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Holden and I took Evan in the morning and I took Lily and Will in the afternoon to limit the chaos and help them get a good exam. It really is better if they have their own individual appointments but it takes a ton of time. I spent half the day at the doctors office and had just been the previous week for Holden's well check.
Lily said 'doctor' and 'V' for our favorite nurse Mrs. V or Vernetta and fell all over herself showing her nose and belly button. Both the boys were social and were happy to give high fives to the doctor. Evan and Lily have over 50 words and Will has over 20. I asked the doctor if she was concerned about Will and she said they only look for six words at 18 months and some kids aren't speaking yet, so they are all doing great. The one area we didn't meet was knowing the colors so that is what we are working on now.
Here are the stats:
weight 23 lbs 4 oz (20%)
height 33 1/2 in (80%) our tall guy
head 47 1/2 cm (70%)
weight 23 lbs 5 oz (20%)
height 31 1/2 in (25%)
head 47 1/2 cm (45%) not sure how both boys can have same head size but different %, maybe it's not right.
weight 22 lbs 3 oz (20%)
height 31 1/4 (40%)
head 47 1/2 cm (75%)
She wasn't concerned about their low-ish weights. I told her I would be happy to give them pedisure or more healthy fats but she said they were fine and getting all the nutrition they needed for good development.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
7:30 AM The 'big' kids are up.
Will with his new matchbox cars. He loves trucks, cars and buses and can spend hours immersed in driving them around, putting them in his riding toys and pushing them around or taking them in and out of little hiding places.
9:30 AM The egg hunt commences. We told them to grab their baskets and go outside. Lily wraps her basket around her to leave her hands free.
The eggs were filled with a fruit gummy treat or animal cracker.
Last few eggs before headed to Pacha for coffee then the park.
4:00 PM Easter dinner with family at the Caffrey's. Lily and Papa read a new book.
7:30 PM Home.
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
View from dining room and den.
Monday, March 17, 2008
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Sunday, March 09, 2008
Friday, March 07, 2008
Thursday, March 06, 2008
Since I realized that Will was a bit behind the other two I have been paying closer attention. He tends to say 'dis' and 'dat' or 'uh' even when it is a word he knows well like 'dog'. When he is not with his siblings he will speak more and it just takes him a bit more time to respond to questions. He said 'gactor' yesterday for tractor. That kid loves trucks and tractors. Which reminds me, we were watching the little people video with the farmer on the tractor. And he went into the playroom and found the little people farmer amidst all their toys and brought him into the room. I thought that was pretty amazing.
Lily repeats just about everything we say and has the largest vocabulary. She is really into shapes and can find 'balls' aka circles, stars and 'moons' crescents everywhere. Yesterday when Buddy our mail man stopped at our house she said 'bus' (his mail truck is a small minivan), then 'mail man' and 'Buddy'.
Evan is getting better at using words to get his needs met, signing more and saying 'moo - mil' for more milk and saying 'up' when he wants to be picked up. A favorite word is 'bubbles' for bath time.
The other day all three put me to the test. They were pushing the patio chairs up to the table and climbing on top.
I tried to follow the advice of the books I've been scanning. I would promtly take them off the table, tell them each firmly 'No, do not climb on the table' while gently holding their arms and looking into their eyes to get their full attention. They would climb back up, I would repeat.
Will will often with respond to just a serious look with a shake of the head 'no' and he did this time too - at first - but then it was too much fun to resist or he liked getting my attention or both.
After more than 20 times I gave up and took everyone into the playroom for a joint timeout. I was clear about why we had to come inside 'because they would not listen to mommy and were climbing on the table'. We had a few minutes of major meltdown and then they were fine.
I have a lot to learn about parenting toddlers. It is surely going to be a test of patience. I was proud of myself for keeping my cool that day. I don't want to be one of those screammy moms with the high pitched shrill 'no, get down! I said no, get down, get down, get down, get down!!' It doesn't seem to work anyway. I plan to save the frantic adrenaline 'Nos' for those truly urgent situations like stopping them from running in the street.
That evening Evan started acting up again. He threw his entire dinner on the floor as soon as he sat down for dinner. He then reached over and tried to throw Will's dinner. I was exhausted and finally lost my cool, grabbed his arms a bit too harshly and said NO!, then called for David to take him. I don't expect to be perfect, but I'll keep practicing my toddler handling skills and try my best to dig deep and find my patience and understanding.
So here's my my game plan - so I can re-read this post later when they are driving me batty.
Pick my battles
Be calm yet firm with enforcing those limits
It is certainly going to get a lot harder before it gets any easier but I think I'm up for the challenge. With a little help from wine and chocolate we will get through this.
Jenny told me that her girls enjoy playing with a big bin of rice and burying their little people toys. So we gave that a try.
They delighted in finding buried treasure for about three seconds, then Lily started eating the rice by the handful (and kept going and going). That reminds me I need to post soon about the funny way she scarfs her fruit. Must.find.video.camera. Anyway, the boys quickly discovered that it was more fun to throw the rice.
And it was not much longer before they all discovered that it was more fun to play in the bin.
Michelle and her boys Rowan (3) and Devin (1) visited us in the afternoon for a playdate. It wasn't long ago when we didn't have any children and now there are six. They are planning on having a couple more. It will be nice to have a few friends as busy as we are.
Then Wednesday we tried out 'story time' at the local library. The kids had some fun but the entire experience exhausted me.
We hadn't been there five minutes when we had our first incident. I was sitting in front with Will and Lily quietly on my lap. Carmen was holding Holden. Evan was wandering in the back of the room (which by the way the leader said that it was ok to walk in the back of the room if they didn't want to sit).
Well, there was a row of chairs along the back wall and Evan climbed up on one - because he climbs EVERYTHING. I saw him, but he looked safe to me. Safe enough for someone who has four children anyway. Well the leader saw him and leaped up screaming 'get off the chair!, get off the chair!, get off the chair!' and snatched him off. I was mortified and frozen, looking around like I didn't know the child.
When story time started she made a point to say, 'and class, remember no climbing on chairs'. Not that she didn't have a point, but I just wasn't thrilled with how she handled it.
During the class we had a few other unsettling moments. Lily standing up front because she was interested and the women telling her to sit down which of course she didn't. Evan trying to take off the felt pictures the leader was posting on the board. Will 'swimming' in the crayon box while all the other children quietly colored. Oh and someone got my nanny's phone number - but it sounded like they were talking about Carmen knowing someone that could help her. Good god I hope that's all. Certainly that is the case. The mom was chatting with me previously and says she visits our park often and knows the children. I don't tolerate nanny stealing very well.
I'm glad I went to see what it was all about. If you had one or two children I could see how it could be a decent diversion and good habit to be going to the library but it's not worth it to me to be on edge the whole time. I'd rather let them run and climb in a safe environment like Gymboree or perhaps it's time to check out a gymnastics class.
The other day I decided to give the kids a treat. Usually dessert is fruit or the occasional animal cracker. But this day we tried chocolate pudding for the first time.
It was the rare occasion that they all had nice clean outfits on, but that didn't last long.